Quite a winter we’re having here in Virginia. We’ve had over 52 inches this year which is about to set a record. Snow is predicted for tomorrow again. I lost power on Friday night at approximately 6:15 PM and regained power on Sunday at 10:55 AM. It’s gorgeous and I’m blessed to live in such a lovely spot, but……..
This is the road that leads out of my driveway
This is my driveway
And this is the view out of my kitchen into the backyard.
Ok! 13 of you came to comment on my first anniversary. Using Mrs. Glosser’s custom random number generator I assigned everyone a number, based on time of comment then plugged in the 13 numbers and it generated the number 7. Which happens to be Andy of Trousers to Grow Into. Andy is the winner of the Sin in a Tin candle from Eden Fantasys as described in this earlier post. We’ll expect Andy to let us know how the candle works!
It was great fun to read all of your comments and to reflect back on the last year of blogging. You’re all a great lot!
Random Number Generator if you’re interested.
If you’re reading this it means the snow storm took out my power. It’s Friday at 9 AM and the snow is coming down, wet and heavy. It is the 4th snow we’ve had this winter and the prediction is for 16-28 inches here in the MidAtlantic where I live. My gorgeous sporty Lexus IS250 sucks in bad weather. So, I’ve been unable to get my car out on the private gravel-like road I live on since last Friday. That’s a week! This storm is predicted to blanket us all and probably will cause massive power outages. I’m getting prepared for that as power goes out frequently in my wooded section of town. My water comes from a spring and is powered by electricity, so that’s a double whammy for me.
I’m alone… well, the two cats are with me. Man-child is in Seattle and Joe is at home with his cats. We felt it best not to get stranded together. I’m not afraid of being alone, the refrigerator has food, there is red wine and 3/4 of a bottle of bourbon. I have gas logs and a gas cooktop. I am capable of handling all kinds of situations and emergencies. But, what I do feel is vulnerability. I have had to depend on others to give me rides over this last week. I can’t get my own car out of my driveway. I don’t enjoy having to ask for help and this kind of vulnerability somehow bumps up against my view of myself as competent and independent. it makes me feel fragile.
I’m planning and I’m being pragmatic. Writing posts in advance, doing all the things that necessitate electricity now. Water has been drawn for toilet flushing and the candles are ready. And, the stack of books is nearby… I can read by candlelight!
The weather man predicts yet another round of snow possibly for Tuesday or Wednesday. This is an unprecedented amount of snow for us. We don’t need an ark, we need a snowmobile.
Love is a costly flower, but one must have the desire to pluck it from the edge of a precipice.
Stendhal (1783-1842) French writer
Many thanks to all of you for a wonderful year of blogging.
Remember to comment if you want to be put in the random drawing for the Sin In A Tin Candle.. I’ll announce the winner by Monday.
p.s.: Duncan, Scott, and Sweats Model got abbreviated! I think I got everyone, if not please let me know and accept my apologies.
Laura
I chose Delicate Flower as the face of this blog last year as a tongue in cheek reference to my anticipated conversations about sexual topics. Delicacies hasn’t really stuck to the purely sexual. And, I find that the name no longer works given my aspirations as a blogger.
Having blogged successfully for a year-minus one day-I plan to keep on. I love blogging and the satisfaction I get from comments and ensuing conversations. I like knowing that I’ve written a good post. And, I want to gradually move into freelance writing while I write my memoir. For this to happen I’m going to do 2 things; I will be starting a second blog to promote my writing and I will be writing Delicacies with a different name.
My birth name is Laura. I never felt like a Laura, maybe because my mother carried that name. I was given an unusual nickname which I eventually took as my ‘real’ name. Laura has a haunting quality about it, it’s a name from old movies.. black and whites. Pretty name, but not one I ever felt to be mine.
There are no drum rolls associated with this move, it’s pragmatic. It is still somewhat anonymous and will allow me to be provocative, flippant, bitchy, sexy and menopausal..also relevant, kind, wise and liberal…. just like I have been this last year.
Yours truly,
Laura
Dear Goddess of the Garden,
I want to surprise my girlfriend with a new vibrator for Valentine’s Day. Can you offer me any suggestions?
Signed,
Hot to trot
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Dear Hot to Trot,
Slow down. Buying a sex toy for one’s partner can be a great idea or a major disaster. I applaud your desire to enhance your relationship and buying a gift could be a great idea. You might want to consider the following:
- Does he/she currently use a vibrator or other sex toy? If this would be their first toy there are considerations that differ from buying an additional toy for the tool box.
- Are you in a sexual relationship? Buying a toy for a “friend”, before you’re having sex, might be interpreted the wrong way. You ought to be in a stable relationship before doing something that could be construed as risque.
- Depending on what type of toy you’re contemplating, will this change the dynamics of your relationship? If you buy a woman a cute little pink vibrator you’re indicating a desire for her to play. If you present someone with a enormous dildo or an anal toy you might be introducing an unwelcome element. The same would go for restraints and whips. Make sure you’re both on the same wavelength.
Buying your partner a sex toy could be a wonderful idea and should bring excitement to the relationship. Proceed carefully. Talk to her or him about sex toys, see what the interest might be. You could present her with a gift certificate and suggest that the 2 of you go shopping together.
You can give sex toys to male partners as well. Buy a new vibrator you want and give it to him. It’ll be a suggestion that you want to liven things up. All of these tips can apply to the full range of relationships. The main goal would be to assure some level of comfort and safety. Don’t go too big and bold without knowing how well received it might be.
And, above all, have fun.
My blog will be one year old on Friday, February 5. I’m pretty excited about having made it through a whole year and I want to offer a little gift to one of my commenters to celebrate.
To celebrate I have a little gift donated by Eden Fantasys for that lucky person. I’ve chosen a vanilla scented soy massage candle as my gift. The candle contains gentle, skin safe soy which transforms into a divine massage oil – simply blow out the flame and drizzle the warm oil all over your lovers body for a sensual intimate massage experience.
It sounds like a delightful little candle and is just a small way for me to say thank you! Once I’ve gotten my massage candle and given it a try, I’ll let you know what I think!
What do you have to do to get in the running? Post a comment on Friday, February 5. That’s all.










