OK. so, let’s try again- since I botched it last week. Should one have to provide a list of gift suggestions for a spouse/dear friend/family member/partner ?
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A fairly resounding no from me!
Basically I’m a big believer in ‘it’s the thought that counts’ and I would rather have a 10p thoughtful gift that I will probably never use than something I’ve always wanted. If there is something I REALLY want then there is also great joy in saving/earning/deserving it myself. 
On a partially related note, seeing how much I love your ‘wondering wednesdays’ I’ve decided to solve my sporadic posting schedule by committing to posting one lengthy, useful article per week… only I can’t decide on the day. Do you think there is a preferred day to read a lengthy article? I was thinking tuesday as it seems to be when my traffic is highest at least.
Cheers,
Sam
Sam,
Nice definiive answer! Thank you.
My days have no real rhyme or reason…though Wednesday has been higher over the last month… sex makes for higher volume
I would much prefer to be surprised by a gift than know what’s coming, but on some occasions that has happened as a back-up.
Me too… it seems that if I have to spell it out I might as well buy it for myself.. when I want! Which is what I did when I was married!
Yes…tell me what you want so I can make sure to get you something else.
Tsk Tsk.. poor Mrs Bearman…
I know women love to be surprised and as any normal guy, I would love to surprise my partner as well. But there are times when I do get it wrong and have become to be wary when Birthdays or Christmas rolls around.
So as a practical man, I would prefer if there is a list of preferences. I am not asking for model number but something to narrow down the field, so it is easier. This is not meant to spoil the surprise but there is no point if I get something that to me is nice for her but she does not like it. Yes of course, we can start the whole talk about “if it is from me then she should use it no matter what” but lets be real.
A list of suggestions to narrow down the field might help.
Majimo
Majimo…thank you. As you’ll see from today’s posting there is a reason for this question. I think you offer up the perfect mix of practical with the ’surprise’ factor! I’d say, given one of your recent posts, that you do a good job!
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Gifts? Wassat? Strangely enough, I never seem to find a man that is into “gift giving”, so providing a list would be pointless!
For my birthday two years ago, current b/f bought me a new cell phone, but that was only because the phone I had was a bit bent (I threw it
) … and he couldn’t get hold of me when he wanted me!
I’ve begged and begged for a diamond ring, but bar stealing his credit card, pawning his guitars, ordering online on his behalf, bumping him off to get hold of his money (although I don’t think there is any) … I may as well go and buy it myself!
You threw it! Wow…at him? Two years and still no ring? Hmmm.. I had one of those-he wanted to ‘get’ enough money to buy me the really nice ring, while I was paying for dinners out, drinks at the bar, etc… He now lives alone in another city!
Go buy your own baubles, you’re worth it.
No. I’d rather have a surprise. I love surprises.
This guy I was really close to told me he had a surprise for me. Three surprises, in fact.
I was happy.
At least until he forgot to give them to me.
Guess it was a good news, bad news thing .. You still close?